Category Archives: Gratitude

50 Ways to Show Gratitude for the People in Your Life / by Lori Deschene



“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” –William Arthur Ward


The holiday season generally brings us closer to people. Sometimes that closeness reminds us how much we love each other. Sometimes it reminds us that we drive each other crazy, as family often does.


At the heart of it, Thanksgiving in particular calls us to see people with the deepest appreciation for the gifts they’ve given us. Some gifts are more immediately obvious than others—the type that come with praise, affection, and genuine esteem.


Others push us, stretch us, test us, and make us wonder if there’s anything to be grateful for at all.


There’s no denying certain relationships are more challenging than others, but through each we have an opportunity to grow and help others do the same. Every relationship teaches us something about loving, trusting, forgiving, setting boundaries, taking care of ourselves, and taking care of each other.


From the people who love you, to the people who challenge you, to the people who support you at work, here’s how to show your gratitude:


Show Gratitude to People Who Love You


1. Share a specific example of something they did for you and how it made a difference in your life.


2. Do something little but thoughtful for them—like clean up after Thanksgiving dinner!


3. Give a long, intimate hug; or if you know they don’t like hugs, stick out your hand for a handshake to cater to their preferences and make them smile.


4. Tell them you’re there if they have anything they want to talk about—and let them know they have your full attention.


5. Give them something of yours that you think they would enjoy, and let them know specifically why you want them to have it.


6. Invite them to do something you know they’ve always wanted to do.


7. Encourage them to try something you know they want to try, but haven’t yet because they’re scared.


8. Offer to do something you know they don’t enjoy doing, like organizing their closet or mowing their lawn.


9. Compliment them on a talent, skill, or strength that you admire.


10. Look them straight in the eyes and say, “You make the world a better place.”


Show Gratitude to People Who Challenge You


11. Fully listen to what they have to say, instead of forming your rebuttal in your head and waiting to speak.


12. Thank them for introducing you to a new way to look at things, even if you still don’t agree.


13. Pinpoint something you admire about their commitment to their beliefs—even if you don’t hold them, as well.


14. Resist the urge to tell them they’re wrong.


15. Challenge them right back to be the best they can be, with love and positive intentions.


16. If they inspired you to push outside your comfort zone, thank them for inspiring you to take a risk, and let them know how it paid off.


17. Write a blog post about how they helped you see things differently and dedicate it to them.


18. Use the lesson this person teaches you through your interactions, whether it’s patience, compassion, or courage.


19. Introduce them to someone who may challenge them and help them grow, as they’ve done for you.


20. Let them know how you appreciate when they challenge you in a loving, non-confrontational way—and if they don’t do that, be calm and kind when you ask them to do that going forward.


Show Gratitude to People Who Serve You


21. Give a larger tip than usual.


22. If they have a tip jar, include a thoughtful note of appreciation along with your coins or bills.


23. Smile when you order or enlist their assistance. Smiles are contagious, so give one away!


24. If they serve you regularly, acknowledge something they always do well—like work efficiently or stay calm under pressure.


25. Exhibit patience, even if you’re in a hurry.


26. Let their superior know they do an outstanding job.


27. Keep their workplace clean—for example, at a coffee shop, clean up after yourself at the sugar stand.


28. Offer to get a coffee for them, if it’s someone working in or outside your home.


29. If you have their contact information, send an email of appreciation—and let them know you just wanted to express your gratitude, so they don’t need to write back.


30. Praise them in a review on Yelp and/or recommend them to people you know.


Show Gratitude to People Who Work with You


31. Write a hand-written thank you note, acknowledging things you value about them and their work.


32. Offer to lighten their workload in some way if you are able.


33. Bring back lunch for them if you know they’re working hard and likely haven’t had a chance to grab something.


34. If you’re running a meeting, keep it short to show them you appreciate and respect their time.


35. Ask them about their lives instead of always being all business. This doesn’t mean you need to pry into personal matters; it just means showing an interest in who they are as people.


36. Be the calm, light voice in a stressful situation.


37. Give them flowers to brighten their desk.


38. Let their boss know how they’re doing a great job and contributing to the company.


39. Listen fully if they’re having a difficult day, and recognize if they need space to figure things out on their own, not advice or help.


40. Remember the little things can make a big difference!


Show Gratitude for Yourself


41. Make a list of ways you’ve impressed yourself lately.


42. Treat yourself to something you enjoy, like a pedicure or a massage.


43. If someone compliments you, thank them and let them know you’re proud of that skill, talent, or accomplishment.


44. Compliment yourself—say it while looking in the mirror, write it in a journal, or jot it on a sticky note and put it on your refrigerator.


45. Give yourself time to enjoy a passion you’re sometimes too busy to fit in.


46. Take an inventory of all the good things you’ve done for other people and the world.


47. Write yourself a love letter. Seriously, start with “Dear Lori” (but insert your own name) and describe all the things you admire about yourself.


48. Let go of any conditions you have for being kind to yourself—meaning you appreciate even if you didn’t accomplish or do anything specific.


49. Schedule a date with yourself—an afternoon or evening that’s all about you.


50. Share the beauty that is you with the people around you, knowing they’re fortunate to have you in their lives.


I am fortunate to have you in mine. You make the world a better place!

Peace and Love to

11 Simple Actions to Dramatically Improve Your Day by Mary Kutheis (kooth-ice)

Breathe – And by breathe I don’t mean life-sustaining, autonomic, shallow breathing, I mean belly-filling, brain-cleansing breathing. With each breath take in enough air to expand your belly and with each exhale, expel as much breath as you can, pulling in your belly to extract every bit. Breathe in to a count of five and out to a count of five and do it five times. You’ll feel the difference.

Stretch – So much of the workday can be spent immobilized staring at a computer screen. In addition, if you have a stressful job (who doesn’t — a show of hands, please), tension can creep in on little cat paws. You don’t see it coming but at some point you realize you’re holding tension in your neck or shoulders or back. Raise and lower shoulders, do some head rolls, bend forward while sitting or standing, raise your arms over your head, do some side stretches. Take a moment to notice where you are feeling tight and focus on that area. Don’t push too hard, it’s not a contest to see how flexible you can make yourself, just stretch enough to release the tension.

Walk – Doesn’t matter where you work you can take five minutes and walk. Inside your building, around your parking lot, down the street in your neighborhood. Short breaks are uplifting and good for the body and mind. A walk will get your blood flowing and make your brain function better.

Say “No” – Getting comfortable saying no is a skill that pays off in many ways. Pick situations when you truly have a choice (it’s more often than you may think) and practice saying “thank you for thinking of me, but no, that’s not something I can do right now.” If you need to compromise somehow, you can always add, “But here’s what I CAN do.”

Be grateful – Write down three things for which you are grateful. These don’t have to be big things and frankly it’s better if they aren’t. If we can be grateful for a comfortable desk chair and a really delicious cup of coffee, we’re going to be grateful a much greater percentage of the time than if we are grateful for a fabulous vacation.

Volunteer – Volunteering takes our mind off of ourselves – which is a good thing. You can volunteer at a local organization that matters to you or even volunteer to help a colleague who could use a hand. Volunteering in any capacity is good for your spirit and has a way of spreading. A kindness done for others leads to more kindness being passed along.

Be mindful – Whatever you are doing, be fully aware and focused in that moment. Taking your first sip of coffee? Enjoy the warmth of the cup and the aroma, as well as the taste. Composing an email? Tune out everything else and focus on just that one task. Speaking with a colleague? Give that person your full attention.

Notice nature – This can be purposeful or on the fly. Driving to work or walking by a window pay attention to whatever nature you see. Having lunch, pick a seat where you can see outside, or better yet, sit outside. Listen to the sounds, smell the scents. Put a live plant or fresh flowers on your desk. Even for a few seconds, take in whatever nature falls into your line of sight.

Listen to music – Pick some music to suit your mood – or perhaps to change it. Listen to soothing music to reduce tension, upbeat music to re-energize you, or your current favorite song to lift your spirits.

Go on a media fast – Turn off the television and the radio. Stay away from newspapers and avoid online news sources just for a day. The news will keep happening without you and in fact will still be available to you later. This isn’t putting your head in the sand regarding current events as a lifestyle; it’s for a short while. Give your brain a break from all the sensational bad news stories out there.

Declutter – Take a few minutes and clear off a corner of your desk that’s been piling up or a drawer that over-accumulated stuff. Getting rid of stuff feels good. Completing even a small project can have residual positive mental effects for days.

Love & Peace to Mary Kutheis

The Power of Appreciation Marketing by Lory Fabian


People will forget what you said,

People will forget what you did,

but people will never forget

how you made them feel.”

-Maya Angelou

These words written by Maya Angelou express my passion & belief regarding how powerful & impactive it is when you start using an APPRECIATION MARKETING system; aka

Appreciation Marketing is not really a new term and sometimes is sometimes called relationship marking.

What is it then?

  • It is a new way of doing business the “old fashioned” way.
  • ”It is putting the “High Touch” back into the “High Tech” world.
  • Appreciation Marketing IS looking at why you like to do business with certain companies or people.
  • It is putting the needs of others before your own.
  • Appreciation Marketing is showing genuine appreciation to others when they DO NOT EXPECT IT.

I am a Client Relations Specialist.

The more research I do, the more MOUNTING evidence I find that PROVES:

People spend their money with people they like!

WHILE THIS is certainly not a news flash…it definitely makes me wonder why so few companies practice Appreciation Marketing.

If being successful is that simple, why aren’t more people building stronger relationships?

According to Google, over 660,000 small businesses went out of business in 2010.

Why I want to know is “What did the businesses that succeeded do differently than the ones who went out of business?”  And why are companies squandering millions of marketing dollars every year on advertising dollars?


If you think about it:

  • Common business practices were replaced by faxes, text, emails, etc.
  • Because everything in life is faster, and faster and faster, a lot of companies perceive that faster is the way people want to do business, but they are wrong!
  • Customers are people and people need to feel appreciated, at least most of the time.

Before I share the ‘Why’ and ‘How To’ practice appreciation marketing:


Appreciation is not just for business, it is also for your employees.

Even more importantly, it is about showing your family and friends how much you appreciate them.

While my focus is on helping small businesses grow, I believe, like many others, that your job is important, but not as important as your family and friends.

And why is that?????  Let me ask you a couple of questions?

If your home burned in a fire or

If your house was demolished by a tornado, “WHO WOULD YOU CALL?”

If you lost your job and needed food or money, “WHO WOULD YOU CALL?”

If you ran out of gas on the freeway today, “WHO WOULD YOU CALL?”

“Who WOULD WE call?”
Our friends and family, of course!

If we needed a new kidney, isn’t the first one to always offer their kidney a family member or a friend?

Our family & friends are the ones that are always there for us; so it is important that they come first and you show your love & appreciation.  We need to let them know how grateful we are.  None of us are guaranteed a tomorrow, so express your love and appreciation today!

  • Take your spouse on a date; spend one on one time with your kids;
  • Surprise your mother with a bouquet of flowers; buy your father his favorite cigar or take him golfing.
  • Invite your parents out to lunch or dinner.
  • If money is an issue…Make Friday nights FAMILY NIGHT;
  • PICK UP THE PHONE and CALL Your Best Friend or Love one; Ask them how they are?  Tell them how you feel!!



Let’s get back to the business side of Appreciation Marketing.

Another component to think about is being “Likeable.”

Likeability is Our Lifeline. If your customers don’t like you, they will take their business elsewhere.  Right?  Isn’t that what you do?  I know I do.

Likeable people are perceived as capable, respectful, approachable and positive.


While less-liked people are seen as arrogant, conniving, negative and manipulative. They may get the first sale, but chances are they don’t often get repeat business nor referrals.

Remember, if they like you, they’ll do business with you!

There are some companies that we all do business with that don’t have a name or a face;

THEY ARE either TOO BIG, we don’t have a choice, or it’s too much of a hassle to switch.

Companies like the electric company, the gas and water company, our cable company and/or phone company.

With some companies, we spend our money with them because they know our name and some of them are even are our friends.  WE didn’t necessarily know them before we started doing business, but now, they are our realtor, our hairdressers, our financial advisors, our lawyers, our virtual assistant, our painter, our contractor or our floor company and/or our

Social media coach.

THESE PEOPLE always light up when they see us; they take our calls.  We are not only loyal customers…we make great referrals.

According to Zig Zigglar (world famous salesman) “You can have whatever you want if you help enough people to get what they want.”

Let’s look at a couple of ways to start showing appreciation:


Back in the 1980’s, most business knew everyone’s name and were glad we came; like the TV Cheer’s series.  Now …not so much.

One way to begin Appreciation Marketing is by serving others to achieve their goals and dreams.  {Same philosophy as BNI’s Giver’s Gain}

LET’S LOOK AT WHY SHOULD WE USE Appreciation Marketing:

What makes you a loyal customer is the same thing that makes your customers loyal to you? 

Real super stars in any business are ALL ready practicing Appreciation Marketing.

They GO the extra mile…saying thank you and showing appreciation.

They ALWAYS SHOW interest in their customers and always SHOW their GRATITUDE!

Another thought about WHY you should use Appreciation Marketing:

How many of you have ever splurged on a gift for someone; spent more than you wanted to for the perfect gift and were so excited to see what  their reaction would be?   You waited. And waited and waited and waited.  When you finally speak with them, you have to ask “Hey, how did you like my gift?” They say” Oh yeah..thanks..IT WAS GREAT!”

How did that make you feel?

How many of you on your way to work or a meeting, stopped TO LET A merging car in or let someone turn left or get in front of you… YOU THEN STARE STRAIGHT AT THE BACK WINDOW OF THE CAR…WAITING FOR A GESTURE. SOMEKIND OF WAVE OF THE HAND TO SAY THANKS AND IT NEVER CAME.  Do you sometimes think “Wow…they didn’t even appreciate what I just did for them?” especially when you are running late.





IT’S Common sense to say thank you?  But Mark Twain states it best:

“I don’t know why they call it common sense…it really isn’t that common.”




Some businesses take the BIG GAME HUNT MARKETING APPROACH:






If you are getting the same unwanted results year after year, why not take a chance on giving

Appreciation marketing a try???

If you want joy, give joy TO OTHERS;

If you want love, LEARN TO GIVE LOVE;

If you want ATTENTION & APPRECIATION, learn to give attention and appreciation;

If you want affluent, help others BECOME MATERIALLY AFFLUENT;

If you want to be blessed, silently bless others;

Can you imagine how successful ALL OF US WOULD BE IF


Dr. Deepak Chopra is a world-renowned mind-body healing pioneer and the founder of the Chopra Center for Wellbeing in Carlsbad, California.

A Huge Shout Out to Tommy & Curtis {Appreciation Marketing}…Your Story is my Story too…only the names have been changed! …wink wink  Thank You for Sharing!

How Do You Know Whether You Have a Viable and Solid Network? by Sandra Yancey

When it comes to networking, it’s not at all about the number of names and addresses you have – that is only a database. Your network is defined very differently. Here’s a clever way to measure whether you have a powerful relationship network.

Ask yourself this question: “If you were arrested today for networking effectively, would there be enough evidence to convict you?”

Imagine for a moment the number of people who would be passionate to speak as your witness, to stand in line in the cold, rain or blistering heat so they could convince a jury that they know from personal experience that you are guilty – guilty of helping others achieve their dreams. Now, if the number of witnesses in your defense is small, don’t worry.

Just think of the opportunity that is in front of you! So now it’s your turn. I’ve got five exercises to help you get started to become the powerful relationship networker I know you can be.

1. Remember back over the last year, and think of two people whom you’ve been meaning to bring together. Send each a note of introduction to the other. Better yet, splurge by offering to connect them both at a local coffee house. Stay for 20 minutes or so to make the introductions, start the conversation, and ensure that rapport and connection has been established. Then excuse yourself early and let the connection between the two you’ve introduced take on a life of its own as they begin to collaborate.

2. Go back over the last month and recall all the times you networked. Were there promises you made to someone that you just haven’t had time to keep, or for some other reason, neglected to keep? Don’t procrastinate another minute. Make that happen today.

3. Take inventory of your networking constituents. Discover any gaps in your network. Develop a plan that focuses on the strategies you will follow in order to address these gaps within a certain period of time.

4. Send a thank-you note in one form or another to two people who specifically helped you get new business in the past few months. Buy a number of thank-you cards, put stamps on the blank envelopes, and stash them in a variety of places (such as the glove compartment in your car, your journal, a desk drawer, and your purse). Start the habit of sending at least two or three thank-you notes a week. It may seem like a monumental task at first, but you will soon learn to incorporate that action into your day.

5. Consider three things you plan to buy in the next month – small or large – and see whether you can find women-owned or women-run businesses in your area to buy from. Don’t hesitate to let them know that part of your decision to do business with them is because you want to support women. Get good service somewhere? Make sure you tell ten other women about it!

Developing great relationships and a solid network takes persistence and consistency. The opportunities will be endless and the results will be profound.

Shout out to: Sandra Yancey, Founder & CEO of eWomenNetwork

Try using as a system to help build better relationships . is a great tool to use for following up, sending out thank you notes, or showing customer appreciation.